December 23, 2014
I will be at peace when... I am fully present in love in order to experience the full benefits of love.
Until today, you may have remained in a relationship that you exited a long time ago.
Just for today, be present enough to ask for what you want, and remain present long enough to receive it.
Today I am devoted to being fully present, open and willing to receive the things I say I want in a relationship!
Iyanla Vanzant, “Until Today!”
If I haven’t asked for what I want or explained why I needed something, how can I get upset for not getting it? Closed mouths don't get fed but sometimes I don’t feel worthy enough to ask for what I desire because I already get everything I need. Needless to say, not asking for what I want yet emoting my disappointment in not getting it has caused frustration in a few of my social interactions. I know I have departed from a relationship or two with unresolved issues and unrequested wishes. No one can read my mind and clearly my change in attitude isn't an obvious enough sign of my desires so I have no choice but to speak out loud (or at least write down) and ask for what I want. Sometimes my hesitation stems from the thought that my request is a selfish one. Will it only benefit me or will it help others? If it’s just for me, I'm less likely to ask for anything that I can’t get for myself. Damned independent spirit! When I was single, I didn’t have to (nor did I) ask anyone for anything because if I couldn’t get it for myself, I simply went without it. Now that I am married, a small part of me tries to ask Hubby for my wishes but the flipside of that small part is fiercely self-sufficient and would never DREAM of asking for help! However, my husband loves doing things for me and I appreciate that he even tries to put any effort into my requests. As much as I want a give-and-take marriage, I have to share my wishes while continuing to fulfill his.
Until next time
PeaceLoveHappiness
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